Bringing your newborn home from the hospital is one of the most exciting and overwhelming moments of your life. You have spent months preparing, buying baby clothes, packing your hospital bag, and setting up the nursery, but nothing fully prepares you for those first few days at home.
As a midwife (and a mum myself), I have seen countless families experience the same mix of joy, exhaustion, and “what on earth do I do now?” panic. Here is what I wish every new parent knew before bringing their baby home so you can feel more confident and less stressed during those early days.
1. Your Baby Won’t Follow the Rulebook
Newborns do not always stick to a schedule. They may feed every 2 hours one day and cluster feed all night the next. That is normal. Babies are learning to adjust outside the womb, and it takes time to find your rhythm together.
Tip: Instead of worrying about a rigid schedule, focus on responsive feeding which means feeding your baby when they show hunger cues like rooting, sucking on their hands, or fussing.
2. Sleep (for Both of You) Will Look Different
Forget the idea of “sleeping through the night” in the early months. Most newborns wake every 2 to 3 hours. This does not mean you are doing anything wrong, it is just biology.
Tip: Sleep when your baby sleeps, even if that means a 2 p.m. nap. Share the load with your partner when possible, and consider safe co sleeping options if that works for your family.
3. Feeding Isn’t Always Easy
Whether you choose breastfeeding, bottle feeding, or a combination, it can be harder than expected at first. Many parents feel pressure to “get it right immediately,” but it is a learning curve for both you and your baby.
Tip: Ask for help early. Lactation consultants, midwives, and support groups can make a huge difference in those first weeks.
4. You’ll Second Guess Yourself Constantly
Is baby feeding enough? Are they warm enough? Why are they crying again? These worries are universal. You are not failing, you are adjusting.
Tip: Keep in mind that babies cry. It is their only way to communicate. Over time, you will learn your baby’s cues and feel more confident.
5. You Matter Too
It is easy to put all your energy into your baby and forget about yourself. But your recovery, sleep, and mental health are just as important.
Tip: Accept help, even if it is just a meal, a nap, or a friend folding laundry. You do not have to do it all alone.
6. The Emotional Rollercoaster is Real
From baby blues to bursts of joy, emotions can swing wildly after birth. This is normal, but if you feel persistently low, anxious, or disconnected, reach out. Postnatal depression and anxiety are more common than many parents realise.
Viv’s Thoughts
Bringing baby home is not about perfection, it is about survival, bonding, and finding your way as a new family. The truth is you are already doing better than you think.
If you are preparing for life with your newborn, remember that flexibility, support, and kindness (especially towards yourself) are key.
Baby manuals don’t exist… but this comes close.
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