C= Comforting methods can help
Comforting Does Not Mean Perfection
When parents hear “comforting methods can help” they often think it means there is always a perfect solution. The truth is sometimes there is and sometimes there is not. But it is worth learning and trying different methods, because often one of them will make a difference.
Effective Comforting Methods
Here are some of the most effective comforting methods:
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- Swaddling: A snug wrap helps recreate the security of the womb. Always swaddle safely, and remember that swaddles count as two extra layers, so no blanket is needed.
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- Rocking or gentle movement: Babies are used to constant motion before birth. A walk in the pram or a car ride can be calming, or simply rock them in your arms. Nothing is more soothing than being close to mummy or daddy.
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- White noise: Rhythmic sounds like shushing, fans, or rain can mimic the noises your baby heard in the womb. You can also access the white noise track I created, which includes black and white baby visuals.
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- Skin-to-skin contact: Your warmth, heartbeat, and smell are deeply reassuring.
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- Feeding: Hunger is one of the most common reasons for crying.
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- Viv’s tip: When I handle crying babies, I often find that just talking to them gently and calmly grabs their attention and sometimes soothes them. Singing can also work beautifully.
Comfort Is for Parents Too
Parents often tell me that one method works one day and not the next. That is normal. Babies change rapidly, and what soothes them in one moment may not in another. The important thing is to have a range of safe techniques and to try them calmly.
Remember also that comforting is not only for the baby. It can be comforting for you as a parent to hold, rock, or sing to your child. It strengthens your bond and helps you feel more in control.
A Helpful Mindset Shift
Do not forget my tip from yesterday: think about crying as a language you do not yet speak. Shifting your mindset about what crying means can make it easier to find the best soothing technique.
And when nothing works, that is where the next part of ICON comes in. Sometimes the most comforting method is to allow yourself a pause.
Coming Tomorrow
Tomorrow I will explain the “O” in ICON, which reminds us that it is OK to walk away.
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